Your body is worthy of honouring at ANY size

That’s me. Still hot - worthy of a boudoir shoot at any size

hot enough to pour some cooling water over you

“I'll just wait until I've lost a few more kilos…”

“Aah, will you Photoshop my stomach?”

“Haha, no one wants to see this ham stuffed into string!”

These are all things that I have heard women say about their bodies when asked if they've ever thought about getting themselves a boudoir shoot. I find it really insulting actually. Sometimes I ask them back “do you think the same about my body?” in which often the response is “oh no, that’s different!” And my intent is not to aggravate, but to get one to think “would you speak to a friend / stranger in that way?” … maybe I should just say that instead ;)

And …this self putting-down… it's definitely things that I've thought myself.

I have struggled my whole life with acceptance of how I look.

I continue to struggle.

But what I can say after having worked with hundreds of women of all shapes, sizes, ages, colours, identities - is that it doesn't matter what they look like, or what their journey has been.

It doesn't matter if they fit into what the patriarchy has said is acceptable, because even if they do fit that mould, there's still doubt there.

There's still a self consciousness.

I had a stunning client who was a bodybuilder for years - so putting herself through so much strict training, strict diet. And when she shot with while she hadn't been a bodybuilder for a while now, she was still pretty slim and toned.

And she said this was the “biggest” that she had been, and she was quite nervous about this shoot.

And after the shoot and seeing the photos, she said to me that doing this had undone, maybe not fully, but it had undone a lot of the damage that body building had done to her psychologically, of needing to look a certain way.

So it doesn't really matter what size you are - if you feel that you are too “big” to be able to do a boudoir shoot,

because people of all sizes have this doubt that they're not worthy for this.

And I'm going to tell you right now it's bullshit.

I've done boudoir shoots when I've been 20 kilos heavier and I'll do a boudoir shoot when I've lost 10 more kilos, and I'll do one in a few weeks. It doesn't matter. I'm not waiting to reach a certain weight. And I never did wait to reach a certain weight.

Weight doesn’t not equate beauty, worth or hotness.

Because, let's be honest with each other, when you say to me, “oh, oh, I need to lose 10 kilos first.” Like, are you being realistic? If you're actively on a journey for losing some weight for whatever reason, and that's your goal, cool, I’m with you. I'm doing that for my health, legitimately, my health right now. But as I said, that didn't stop me from doing a boudoir show before. But if you're using it as a blocker because you think you don’t deserve it, then stop that thinking right now.

Because you know you're just using it as an excuse. I know. Get out of your own way.

I have done photo shoots with people of all sizes, and they don't care. Why are you saying that at three kgs, seven kgs, 20 kgs, more than you'd like to be, that you're supposedly not worthy of celebrating what you look like now? Why are you denying yourself that?

I don't think that's really nice to yourself.

And let's be honest, you're gonna keep shifting the goal posts anyway.

So why not just do it now you can do it again later when you've lost that five kgs that you said you're gonna do?

Chat soon x

those are some hot curves. They look pretty worthy to me.